Connection issues when attempting to join hosted (Essential) and LAN worlds

[Devilswarchild]

MC 1.20.1
Forge 47.1.0
Mod Version: visualoverhaul-forge-5.0.1.jar

Causing an connection lost trying to connect to an integrated server via Essential. Will be providing logs from both host and one person who was attempting to connect.

first time they try to connect to me I get the following error:

here are the logs for that:

My logs
debug.log
latest.log
launcher_log.txt

her logs:
debug.log
latest.log
launcher_log.txt

the second time we try to connect it gives the following error on her end:

here are my logs for this one:

launcher_log.txt
debug.log
latest.log

and her logs:

debug.log
latest.log
launcher_log.txt

and here is the current unreleased form of my 1.20.1 modpack modlist:

Nosiphus Furniture Mod (by Nosiphus)
Farsight [Forge] (by someaddon)
Library Ferret - Forge (by jtl_elisa)
Dynamic Lights (by atomicstrykergrumpy)
Inventory Essentials (by BlayTheNinth)
Cristel Lib (by Cristelknight)
Polymorph (Fabric/Forge/Quilt) (by TheIllusiveC4)
Fast Portals (by gluegunner4)
Cooking for Blockheads (by BlayTheNinth)
Waystones (by BlayTheNinth)
Reap Mod (by henkelmax)
Resourceful Config (by ThatGravyBoat)
Vanilla Plus Tools (by Raycoms)
Occultism (by kli_kli)
Minecraft Transit Railway (Automated trains, planes, and more!) (by jonafanho)
Ad Astra (by AlexNijjar)
Catalogue (by MrCrayfish)
Trails and Tales + (by BelgieYT)
Dense Ores - Abundant! (by NewJumperr)
FerriteCore (Forge) (by malte0811)
Mo' Glowstone (by TheMasterGeneral)
Savage Ender Dragon[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
Just Enough Items (JEI) (by mezz)
SuperMartijn642's Config Lib (by SuperMartijn642)
Advanced Chimneys (by EnderLanky)
CreativeCore (by CreativeMD)
Clickable advancements[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
The Lost Castle (by jack_bagel)
No Telemetry (by kb1000)
Game Menu Mod Option [Forge] (by morimori0317)
Dynamic View[Forge] (by someaddon)
Cosmetic Armor Reworked (by LainMI)
Armourer's Workshop (by RiskyKen)
Macaw's Bridges (by sketch_macaw)
Log Begone (by AzureDoomC)
Modonomicon (by kli_kli)
Towns and Towers (by Biban_Auriu)
Silent Lib (silentlib) (by SilentChaos512)
Botarium (by CodexAdrian)
Better Villages - Forge (by jtl_elisa)
SuperMartijn642's Core Lib (by SuperMartijn642)
ZeroCore 2 (by ZeroNoRyouki)
JadeColonies (by uecasm)
Leaves Be Gone (by Fuzs)
Cloth Config API (Fabric/Forge) (by shedaniel)
Mo' Glowstone Lamps (by TheMasterGeneral)
Enderite Mod (for Forge) (by pitti11)
Pam's HarvestCraft 2 - Trees (by pamharvestcraft)
BlockUI (by Raycoms)
Immersive Paintings [Fabric/Forge] (by Conczin)
Double Doors (by Serilum)
Chunk Sending[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
Additional Structures (by XxRexRaptorxX)
Balm (Forge Edition) (by BlayTheNinth)
Silent Gear (by SilentChaos512)
Better Combat [Fabric & Forge] (by daedelus_dev)
Time Control (by Unixkitty)
Project MMO (by Harmonised_)
TerraBlender (Forge) (by TheAdubbz)
Create (by simibubi)
Aquaculture 2 (by Shadow)
Biomes O' Plenty (by Forstride)
MineColonies (by Raycoms)
Macaw's Paths and Pavings (by sketch_macaw)
Eureka! Ships! for Valkyrien Skies (Forge/Fabric) (by rubydesic)
MVS - Moog's Voyager Structures (by finndog_123)
Dragon Mounts: Legacy (by Kay9Unit)
Erroring Entity Remover Reforged (by AzureDoomC)
Iron Bookshelves (by jahirtrap)
Iron Chests (by ProgWML6)
Passive Endermen (by Serilum)
SmartBrainLib (Forge/Fabric/Quilt) (by Scimiguy)
Jade 🔍 (by Snownee_)
Kotlin for Forge (by thedarkcolour)
Multi-Piston (by Raycoms)
GeckoLib (by Gecko)
Macaw's Trapdoors (by sketch_macaw)
Creeper Firework (by DragonsPlus)
JourneyMap (by techbrew)
Better Berries Redux (by The_Lemon_Juiced)
Ad Astra: Giselle Addon (by 지젤쟝다)
Oculus (by Asek3)
KleeSlabs (by BlayTheNinth)
Rune Craft (by XxRexRaptorxX)
Immersive Weapons Compatibility Bridge (by AnonymousHacker1279)
Epic Samurai's (by VPixelStudio)
Structurize (by Raycoms)
Puzzles Lib [Forge & Fabric] (by Fuzs)
Oreberries Replanted (by Mrbysco)
LevelHearts (by FireController1847)
Yeetus Experimentus (by Sunekaer)
Packed Up (Backpacks) (by SuperMartijn642)
Domum Ornamentum (by OrionOnline)
The Undergarden (by Quek04)
All The Trims (by bawnorton)
Architectury API (Fabric/Forge) (by shedaniel)
Fastload (by StockiesLad)
Security Craft (by Geforce132)
Tropicraft (by Cojomax99)
Tree Harvester (by Serilum)
Large Ore Deposits (by EnderLanky)
Pam's HarvestCraft 2 - Food Core (by pamharvestcraft)
Enhanced Farming (by Mrbysco)
Medieval Music[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
Corpse (by henkelmax)
MidnightLib (by TeamMidnightDust)
Rubidium (by Asek3)
Collective (by Serilum)
Wormhole (Portals) (by SuperMartijn642)
AI Improvements (by QueenOfMissiles)
Extreme Reactors (by ZeroNoRyouki)
Bigger Stacks (by thanksihadtosignupforthis)
Craftable Horse Armour & Saddle [CHA&S] (by EwyBoy)
Epic Knights: Shields, Armor and Weapons [Fabric & Forge] (by magistu_)
Lithereal (by TheLightBlueGame)
Structure Essentials[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
Magnesium/Rubidium Dynamic Lights (by Anthxny)
Just Another Rotten Flesh to Leather Mod (by alexdaum1)
Almost Unified (by AlmostReliable)
Clumps (by Jaredlll08)
Leaky - Farm leak detection[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
ESSENTIAL Mod (by SparkUniverse_)
Better Fps - Render Distance[Forge] (by someaddon)
Pam's HarvestCraft 2 - Food Extended (by pamharvestcraft)
Ultris: Boss Expansion (by limesplatus)
ModernFix (by embeddedt)
Corail Woodcutter (by Corail_31)
CTD Core (by TheMasterGeneral)
Server Performance - Smooth Chunk Save[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
Iron Bows (FORGE) (by popcornman200)
Magnesium/Rubidium Extras (by Anthxny)
Ender Mail (by Chaosyr)
Allomancy (by legobmw99)
The Graveyard (FORGE) (by finallion_13)
Pam's HarvestCraft 2 - Crops (by pamharvestcraft)
Corail Pillar (by Corail_31)
Advancement Plaques [Forge] (by Grend_G)
fix GPU memory leak[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
Skin Layers 3D (Fabric/Forge) (by tr7zw)
Physics Mod (by haubna)
GravelMiner (by BlayTheNinth)
B.F. End Cities (by Anthxny)
Neat (by Vazkii)
playerAnimator (by KosmX)
Neruina - Ticking Entity Fixer (by bawnorton)
Ambient Environment (by Jaredlll08)
TrashSlot (by BlayTheNinth)
Additional Lanterns (by SuperMartijn642)
ForgeEndertech (by EnderLanky)
Macaw's Fences and Walls (by sketch_macaw)
Comforts (Fabric/Forge/Quilt) (by TheIllusiveC4)
Variant Crafting Tables [Forge] (by Kitteh6660)
Portable Crafting Table (by 00theblackwolf00)
Visual Overhaul (by Motschen)
Inventory Sorter (by cpw)
When Dungeons Arise - Forge! (by Aureljz)
Immersive Weapons (by AnonymousHacker1279)
Applied Energistics 2 (by thetechnici4n)
Croptopia (by thethonk)
Valkyrien Skies (Forge/Fabric) (by triode_)
Entity Culling Fabric/Forge (by tr7zw)
Doggy Talents Next (by dashiedev)
Dark Mode Everywhere (by Buuz135)
Resourceful Lib (by ThatGravyBoat)
Immersive Aircraft [Fabric/Forge] (by Conczin)
PlayerRevive (by CreativeMD)
Simply Light (by Flanks255)
Iceberg [Forge] (by Grend_G)
Bad Wither No Cookie - Reloaded (by Kreezxil)
Biome Music[Forge/Fabric] (by someaddon)
Krypton Reforged (by Anthxny)
Storage Racks (by Raycoms)
Get It Together, Drops! (by bl4ckscor3)
MrCrayfish's Furniture Mod (by MrCrayfish)
Connected Glass (by SuperMartijn642)
Curios API (Forge) (by TheIllusiveC4)

would very much like to get a fix for this and when the host doesnt have it installed and a user does when they join, there is no crash (found this out by accident)