diff --git a/examples/deployment/03-envoy-deployment.yaml b/examples/deployment/03-envoy-deployment.yaml
index 5236e57fbb1..a05c9a4dace 100644
--- a/examples/deployment/03-envoy-deployment.yaml
+++ b/examples/deployment/03-envoy-deployment.yaml
@@ -28,14 +28,13 @@ spec:
     spec:
       affinity:
         podAntiAffinity:
-          requiredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution:
-            - labelSelector:
-                matchExpressions:
-                  - key: app
-                    operator: In
-                    values:
-                      - envoy
+          preferredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution:
+          - podAffinityTerm:
+              labelSelector:
+                matchLabels:
+                  app: envoy
               topologyKey: "kubernetes.io/hostname"
+            weight: 100
       containers:
         - command:
             - /bin/contour
diff --git a/examples/render/contour-deployment.yaml b/examples/render/contour-deployment.yaml
index b077a0809f9..cdc20ccd279 100644
--- a/examples/render/contour-deployment.yaml
+++ b/examples/render/contour-deployment.yaml
@@ -9142,14 +9142,13 @@ spec:
     spec:
       affinity:
         podAntiAffinity:
-          requiredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution:
-            - labelSelector:
-                matchExpressions:
-                  - key: app
-                    operator: In
-                    values:
-                      - envoy
+          preferredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution:
+          - podAffinityTerm:
+              labelSelector:
+                matchLabels:
+                  app: envoy
               topologyKey: "kubernetes.io/hostname"
+            weight: 100
       containers:
         - command:
             - /bin/contour
diff --git a/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane.go b/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane.go
index f181189ad76..3da3c6e17e0 100644
--- a/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane.go
+++ b/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane.go
@@ -433,7 +433,8 @@ func desiredDeployment(contour *model.Contour, contourImage, envoyImage string)
 				Spec: corev1.PodSpec{
 					Affinity: &corev1.Affinity{
 						PodAntiAffinity: &corev1.PodAntiAffinity{
-							RequiredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution: []corev1.PodAffinityTerm{
+							PreferredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution: []corev1.WeightedPodAffinityTerm{
+								Weight: int32(100),
 								{
 									LabelSelector: EnvoyPodSelector(contour),
 									TopologyKey:   "kubernetes.io/hostname",
diff --git a/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane_test.go b/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane_test.go
index 4536e9725aa..327bdae602d 100644
--- a/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane_test.go
+++ b/internal/provisioner/objects/dataplane/dataplane_test.go
@@ -265,7 +265,8 @@ func checkEnvoyDeploymentHasAffinity(t *testing.T, d *appsv1.Deployment, contour
 	if apiequality.Semantic.DeepEqual(*d.Spec.Template.Spec.Affinity,
 		corev1.Affinity{
 			PodAntiAffinity: &corev1.PodAntiAffinity{
-				RequiredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution: []corev1.PodAffinityTerm{
+				PreferredDuringSchedulingIgnoredDuringExecution: []corev1.WeightedPodAffinityTerm{
+					Weight: int32(100),
 					{
 						LabelSelector: EnvoyPodSelector(contour),
 						TopologyKey:   "kubernetes.io/hostname",