docker: install cudnn with source build only (PR2456)

[Borda]

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What does this PR do?

The problem is:

• torch 2.2 downloads cudnn from pypi
  • this is 8.9.2
• thunder's docker container also has cudnn from deb pkg
  • https://github.com/Lightning-AI/lightning-thunder/blob/main/dockers/ubuntu-cuda/Dockerfile#L83
  • this is 8.9.7
• FE v1.2 prefers cudnn from deb over pypi
  • and hence there is a mismatch

so far, we expect two kinds of users:

• mainstream - install PT from the latest published (this kind of user wont play with unstill some system package and reinstall with another)
• developer - fine to compile news from the source and, in such case also set any desired cudnn versio

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[Borda]

this is not supported yet, cc @t-vi @mruberry