frontend(queries): refactor to unified query interface to help maintainability

[ollibowers]

Created an abstraction layer around useQuery and useMutation, to help standardise the settings and key usage:

• created query/mutation hook factory functions
• reworked ALL query keys (previously none matched)
• added a staleTime for both static and user queries, as well as gcTime for static queries
  • previously staleTime was defaulted to 0, meaning queries always got refetched
  • this meant mutations (and similarly keys) theoretically did nothing as the cache never got considered
  • IMPORTANT: this means some bugs may appear where data isnt being invalidated at the right time... but triv fix if so

Next up (when i have more time again):

• make it so that queryOptions doesnt have to be given in queries (change variadic type params)
• make it so we dont have to do funky defaults for dependent queries
  • currently if we try use !, we hit non-null assertion typeerrors
  • might make a queryOption allowUnsetParams which auto does the enable key and allows undefined params

IMPORTANT: Also snuck in a graph refactor to finally fix the bubble highlighting on mutation...

[martanman]

lgtm