apacheGH-38537: [Java] upgrade to netty 4.1.100.Final (apache#38538)

### Rationale for this change
<img width="938" alt="Screenshot 2023-11-01 at 14 58 19" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/30110721/7bc749de-ddfc-48d5-a291-522506ceddf3">
<img width="911" alt="Screenshot 2023-11-01 at 14 58 36" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/30110721/74973933-0caa-4ab3-926b-993adce57403">

### What changes are included in this PR?

new version of netty.

### Are these changes tested?

### Are there any user-facing changes?
no

* Closes: apache#38537

Authored-by: Ivan Chesnov <ivan.chesnov@dremio.com>
Signed-off-by: David Li <li.davidm96@gmail.com>

java/pom.xml

@@ -33,7 +33,7 @@
     <dep.junit.jupiter.version>5.9.0</dep.junit.jupiter.version>
     <dep.slf4j.version>1.7.25</dep.slf4j.version>
     <dep.guava-bom.version>31.1-jre</dep.guava-bom.version>
-    <dep.netty-bom.version>4.1.96.Final</dep.netty-bom.version>
+    <dep.netty-bom.version>4.1.100.Final</dep.netty-bom.version>
     <dep.grpc-bom.version>1.56.0</dep.grpc-bom.version>
     <dep.protobuf-bom.version>3.23.1</dep.protobuf-bom.version>
     <dep.jackson-bom.version>2.15.1</dep.jackson-bom.version>