Support custom device mesh for tensor parallel workers

[fzyzcjy]

Motivation

Just #2827 but updated

To allow users (e.g. Verl) to pass in custom device mesh, the parallel_state.py is changed, and uses a provided device mesh instead of creating its own groups.

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[fzyzcjy]

After discussing with Lianmin, now I know there is no need to follow implementation requirements in e.g. 2736. Thus I spent several hours writing a new PR #3852, and this one is deprecated.