fix(manager): fix logic for when RWX workload is restarted after node… (backport #3077)

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Which issue(s) this PR fixes:

longhorn/longhorn#9290

What this PR does / why we need it:

Special notes for your reviewer:

Additional documentation or context

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #3077 done by [Mergify](https://mergify.com).

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Changes to be committed:
	modified:   controller/kubernetes_pod_controller.go
	modified:   controller/share_manager_controller.go
	modified:   controller/volume_controller.go

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	both modified:   datastore/longhorn.go

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